The Decline of Asian Marriage

14 Sep

Women are rejecting marriage in Asia. The social implications are serious.


Marriage rates are falling partly because people are postponing getting hitched. Marriage ages have risen all over the world, but the increase is particularly marked in Asia. People there now marry even later than they do in the West. The mean age of marriage in the richest places—Japan, Taiwan, South Korea and Hong Kong—has risen sharply in the past few decades, to reach 29-30 for women and 31-33 for men.

A lot of Asians are not marrying later. They are not marrying at all. Almost a third of Japanese women in their early 30s are unmarried; probably half of those will always be. Over one-fifth of Taiwanese women in their late 30s are single; most will never marry. In some places, rates of non-marriage are especially striking: in Bangkok, 20% of 40-44-year old women are not married; in Tokyo, 21%; among university graduates of that age in Singapore, 27%. So far, the trend has not affected Asia’s two giants, China and India. But it is likely to, as the economic factors that have driven it elsewhere in Asia sweep through those two countries as well; and its consequences will be exacerbated by the sex-selective abortion practised for a generation there. By 2050, there will be 60m more men of marriageable age than women in China and India.

Can marriage be revived in Asia? Maybe, if expectations of those roles of both sexes change; but shifting traditional attitudes is hard. Governments cannot legislate away popular prejudices. They can, though, encourage change. Relaxing divorce laws might, paradoxically, boost marriage. Women who now steer clear of wedlock might be more willing to tie the knot if they know it can be untied—not just because they can get out of the marriage if it doesn’t work, but also because their freedom to leave might keep their husbands on their toes. Family law should give divorced women a more generous share of the couple’s assets. Governments should also legislate to get employers to offer both maternal and paternal leave, and provide or subsidise child care. If taking on such expenses helped promote family life, it might reduce the burden on the state of looking after the old.

Asian governments have long taken the view that the superiority of their family life was one of their big advantages over the West. That confidence is no longer warranted. They need to wake up to the huge social changes happening in their countries and think about how to cope with the consequences.


It isn’t a new issue but the article points out a key: Shifting tradition is hard. It is true that it isn’t easy but it needs to be done more or less.



5 Responses to “The Decline of Asian Marriage”

  1. billionsix September 15, 2012 at 3:26 am #

    I knew there was a reason you hadn’t married me yet. 😉

  2. Selvinas September 15, 2012 at 2:16 pm #

    So they don’t marry but are also single?
    Here most people I think don’t marry but they do live together and get kids.

    • twyankeesfan September 15, 2012 at 2:33 pm #

      Well, raising kids without wedlock isn’t common in Taiwan or Hong Kong. They both contribute to low birth rate that more people choose to stay single and married couple are less willing to have kids. In Taiwan, birth rate has been the lowest worldwide in the past two years or so.

      • Selvinas September 17, 2012 at 2:11 pm #

        That’s too bad. Do you know what measures the government is taking?

  3. twyankeesfan September 20, 2012 at 1:26 am #

    Selvinas, you mean the government in Taiwan? There are a few measures the government has taken, a subsidy for each child birth included. However, the bottom line is to let married couples, especially those financially capable (in contrast to the socially disadvantaged), willing to give birth but not feel rather pessimistic about the future — the root cause for low birth rates as far as I’m concerned.

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