Glamour: 50 Things Everyone Should Know about Getting Married

24 Nov

Here is what I can’t agree more!

http://living.msn.com/love-relationships/love-sex/50-things-everyone-should-know-about-getting-married#11

You won’t learn certain habits about your man until you’re living together.
If you haven’t yet lived with your man, you can’t know everything about him, like whether he’s wasteful or frugal at home, how often he talks to friends and family, whether he’ll pitch in around the house, and whether he actually goes to bed at the same time as you.

 

I know for chastity concern, as required by Christianity, it is not supposed to be a live-in couple. However, it wasn’t where I came from. I didn’t attend church until one year ago or so. Even though I’ve tried to follow all church rules, I still consider it most beneficial/practical for couples to live together before marriage.

 

See here are what exactly proves what I just said:
http://living.msn.com/love-relationships/love-sex/50-things-everyone-should-know-about-getting-married#39
http://living.msn.com/love-relationships/love-sex/50-things-everyone-should-know-about-getting-married#42
http://living.msn.com/love-relationships/love-sex/50-things-everyone-should-know-about-getting-married#44

You’ll find out things about him you didn’t know before…and they may leave you scratching your head asking, “Who’s this guy in my house?” Well, you’ve changed over the years, and that means your husband has too. It’s a good thing, and it’s part of the discovery of marriage — and chances are he’s thinking the same about you.

You can’t be passionate every minute of every day — period. Just be realistic with your expectations and you’ll slide back into a routine that feels like you, whether that’s sex every night, weekend mornings — whatever works.

You’re going to have to do unsexy things with each other. Like divvying up chores, draining blisters, or buying each other’s less-than-glamorous personal-care items (honey, I need a box of super-plus tampons, please). And at the end of the day, week, month, and year, you’re still going to be married…and you’re still going to love each other just as much. Everyone, however, has her gross-out point, and marriage doesn’t mean you have to lose yours entirely for love, so keeping some boundaries intact is A-OK.

 

So, it is just wisely down to earth to live together before tying the knot, for there will be little/no “shock” left undiscovered!😛

 

However, #20 & #38 are what I would contradict:
http://living.msn.com/love-relationships/love-sex/50-things-everyone-should-know-about-getting-married#20
http://living.msn.com/love-relationships/love-sex/50-things-everyone-should-know-about-getting-married#38

In my case, it’ll be all, if not all but mostly😛, left for my fiance to take care of~ All I want to get it done soonest is to obtain a residency certificate/visa in HKSAR. As for alchohol, to be honest, I used to enjoy drinking, for fun and/or with friends. However, since about 1 year ago, I’ve got to stay away from it for the again religious reason.

 

To conclude, Glamour has a good one, the same as what I’ve believed: http://living.msn.com/love-relationships/love-sex/50-things-everyone-should-know-about-getting-married#50

Your partner should make you feel like a better person.

According to a study from the State University of New York at Stony Brook, the marriages that last are the ones in which your partner helps you expand your definition and value of yourself. We couldn’t agree more.

 

Indeed, making you a better person, the special one & on the same page as his/hers is what makes marriage work!🙂

By the way, the picture on #15 looks exactly the “same” as mine, both cutting & size wise! Hehe~

 

3 Responses to “Glamour: 50 Things Everyone Should Know about Getting Married”

  1. Brian December 1, 2012 at 3:47 am #

    I see the point about trying out living together before marriage, and on the surface it makes logical sense.
    But just to play devil’s advocate, let me tell you a story. My sister moved in with her boyfriend. And stayed in a very unsatisfying relationship for about 10 years. When you live in a place with someone, it’s very easy to get complacent. I can see a woman living with someone, then moving on to marriage because it’s the “next logical step,” or worse, because she has nowhere else to go if she leaves. In other words, they enter marriage as a sort of default option, after a period of “wellll, let’s see….”
    On the other hand, when you wait till marriage, you have made your decision. You know that once you move your wardrobe and toothbrush over, you are in it for the long haul.

    • twyankeesfan December 1, 2012 at 7:13 am #

      Hey~ Brian, how’ve you been? I haven’t seen you for a while. Hope you’ve been doing okay!🙂

      I understand your point and it actually makes sense. However, you know “the” no-no in marriage or for live-in couples? Never take things for granted. That is, once you get too complacent about a relationship or life, it is easy to become ungrateful or unsatisfied with what you own. I know it sounds like a cliche but in routine daily life, that does matter, not least in petty things you don’t care or don’t think they are worth attention.

      By the way, why was your sister in a very unsatisfying relationship for 10 years? I mean 10 years! if it had been that bad, she should have left much earlier! Another thing about live-in couples is never leaving yourself in a dead-end alley where there is no way out! =.=a

      • Brian December 1, 2012 at 9:46 am #

        I am good. I moved into a new place. It’s very nice.

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